Okay, let’s talk about the Rihanna and Chris Brown thing. Obviously, nobody knows for sure what happened. Did R&B artist Chris Brown hit singer Rihanna in a fight before the grammys? All we know for sure is that Rihanna was hurt and went to the hospital. And now, nobody is talking.

So, without placing blame or reading into a situation that we don’t have enough details on, let’s just talk about what is bothering us. This situation puts a spotlight on domestic violence.

“Whether you are rich or poor, famous or not, young or old–domestic violence does not discriminate,” says NOW President Kim Gandy.

And she’s absolutely right. The stereotype of domestic violence is that it only happens to uneducated, poor people who don’t know any better. But domestic violence happens can happen to anyone, as this Lemondrop post so aptly puts it. And it is never okay.

Just because Rihanna and Chris Brown are talented and famous does not mean that they are immune to the realities of domestic violence.

According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

Approximately 33 million¹ or 15% of all U.S. adults, admit that they were a victim of domestic violence. Furthermore, 6 in 10 adults claim that they know someone personally who has experienced domestic violence.

If this is a wake-up call for you, there are safe places to get help. Locally, there are domestic violence shelters and organizations Safe Nest and SAFE House. Nationally, you can get help 24/7 through the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Or you can call them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Or you can go to a church, synagogue, mosque or other house of worship. And there is always your neighborhood police station, where they can put you in touch with people and organizations who can help.

Remember: You are a valuable human being. You do not deserve to be in a situation of violence or harm. And there is help out there.